Had a couple of nightmares last night which is probably just the aftermath of being on ambulance shift at a fatal, high speed MVA yesterday afternoon. Having done some debriefing this morning and engaged with peer support has been a tremendous help but it did make me consider how we best support each other and how draining giving support can be at times. Yes, it’s our role to support our loved ones but I think it’s aso important to make sure we support ourselves so we’re able to support others and that we seek support when it’s needed. Many of us try and “be strong” and go it alone but that’s not always the sensible thing to do. A sharing and caring network can be the difference between coping and sinking.

Blessings, Amethyst

There’s a fine line between justice and revenge and while justice may bring a logical resolution, revenge just lengthens and intensifies the dispute. Yes I’m a pacifist, always have been and I prefer to maturely walk away from an argument than engage in it but in terms of justice versus revenge, I think the waters can sometimes get a little muddied. Each person must therefore carefully examine the motives for their actions to determine whether they’re actually trying to resolve the issue with justice or simply seeking personal revenge which will ultimately resolve nothing.

Justice doesn’t always mean the other person has to “pay” for what they did of course. Justice can just mean the practicality of the situation ceases. i.e. the neighbourhood dispute no longer includes throwing dead chickens over the fence or whatever it may be. The problem with justice is that it doesn’t always take into account the emotional damage caused by the events and that’s where a wish for revenge can creep into the mix. What we do and what we feel about what we do may be two different things.

I would suggest that we all have a responsibility to ask ourselves if our actions are motivated by justice and a mature desire to resolve the situation and/or revenge and a need to address the hurt. Exploring and resolving the hurt are vital to ultimate resolution of any issue but that can be done without malicious revenge. There can be better ways to end a fight than to “win”.

Smiles and blessings, Amethyst

While the internet has opened up instant communication and provided opportunities for so much good, it disturbs me that a minority of people can use this amazing medium to cause damage and havoc. Cyber bullying, harassment, defamation and sheer unethical destruction have caused many young people around the world to take their own lives. Defamatory statements made by some people have caused others to be wrongly imprisoned or to lose their businesses, homes or jobs.

Of course bullying and harassment and defamation have been going on for years, well before the www came into being. People have been victims of this appalling behaviour since the world began but the problem with internet and SMS bullying and defamation is that:

• It can go globally viral within hours.
• Once out there it can never be fully erased.
• Defamation, threats and destructive statements can be made from alias “profiles” and platforms that hide the real perpetrator.
• The same defamation, threats and destructive statements can be made on a multitude of platforms and websites so that tracking them down and deleting them can become impossible.
• Untrue and malicious statements can be made without the need for supporting evidence.
• Those same untrue statements can incite viral retaliation to innocent parties very quickly.

Just because the anonymity of the keyboard appears to provide adequate defence from karmic, legal and practical payback, doesn’t mean that it’s a justice free platform for open destruction and vengeance. Sadly, this doesn’t seem to have sunk into the questionable brains of those people who engage in this type of immoral and dangerous behaviour yet.

Let me take this opportunity to point out that Karmic payback works equally as well, regardless of the platform used and while for many victims, the payback comes too late, I pray that one day those who wreak havoc on the www will realise that regardless of the medium, their turn will come.  The impact of immoral, unethical, destructive behaviour will return to the perpetrator at some point, somehow regardless of the medium used. Those who live by the sword, die by the sword or in this case, those who live by the defamatory keyboard will eventually suffer from their own keyboard input. Keyboard anonymity only goes so far and technological advances now mean that every key stroke made can be tracked right back to its source just the same as handwritten letters and phone calls.

This is all very well but we need more than a technological tracking device. We need society as a whole to stamp out this intolerable behaviour. It doesn’t matter what medium anyone uses to abuse someone else, IT IS WRONG! As a group of moral beings, we MUST stand together to stop this abuse. We MUST raise our voices in unison to show that any defamation, bullying or harassment, regardless of the platform, is WRONG and will NOT be tolerated. The more of us that stand together as one and declare such behaviour as intolerable, the more we help to stop our bullied teenagers killing themselves as a last resort. The more we stand together and openly tell the world that we will not tolerate this premeditated abuse, the less suffering will occur. Come on people, enough is enough! NO MORE BULLYING!

Blessings, Amethyst

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I’m a Capricorn so I’m an Earth girl. Always have been drawn to the Earth. Trees and I get on very well and I love being close to plants and feeling their power. Herbs work very well for me, both for my own use and when I prescribe them and again I wonder if this is because of my preference for all earth grown gifts of nature.

During a dream last night I was told that I needed to make an all-purpose, gentle and holistic physical and psychological healing essence and that one of its ingredients needs to be Calendula. This is interesting because this has been my favourite herb since I was a girl and in naturopathy and western herbal health it is a plant whose flowers are wonderful healers.

So this morning, I sat with my wonderful Calendula plants that I planted from heritage seeds last year and asked the plant’s permission to harvest some of the flowers for a healing essence. I also spent some time with the plant asking him what else this essence might support in terms of the healing process and then I set to work.

As I type right now, the flower heads are imbuing their energy into the solution and later today I will prepare the solution as a mother essence and then prepare the stock bottles.

I’m so excited because while I’ve always used essences, and indeed I prescribe them quite frequently too as both single or bespoke mixes, I’ve never been told in a dream that I needed to prepare this particular mother essence. When I woke this morning, I realised that Bach never did a Calendula mix which is surprising on reflection really given the plant’s long held herbal tradition. Fascinating!!!

Smiles and blessings, Amethyst